This is an entirely new season of life for me. I’m a newlywed (again), I’m a new mom (again), I’m now a work-from-home mama, and learning how to do life with a vivacious and joyful toddler.
The past year can be summed up by one word: CHANGE. There have been so so SO many different things changing and transitioning that sometimes it’s hard to keep up. But through all the different changes, here are some things I’ve learned.
Three Things I’ve Learned in My New Season of Life
1. To narrow my life.
In this season of lots of changing and transitions, I’ve had to learn how to say no and prioritize more and more. My wise mentor Selma says to me often: “You can have it all, but you can’t have it all at the same time.” A-MEN! So many of us mamas feel like we have to perfectly balance all the juggling plates, but it’s impossible. This isn’t going to be the season of life when I accomplish all of the things on my bucket list. This is the season when I nurse my baby, cuddle and play with trucks, change lots of diapers and prioritize my family. Letting go of my own expectations has been the hardest part of narrowing my life.
2. Being a mom and working is just hard.
I’ve been both a mom who’s working full-time and now I’m a work from home mom. There’s no other way to slice it: both are really, really hard. There is mommy guilt no matter what. The “I should”s don’t magically go away even if you can be around your little ones as much as possible. There will always be more to do than hours in the day. I’ve had to learn that doing the best that I can every single day is the goal, and to not compare myself to anyone else. I’m working to be the very best version of myself – not someone else. So I work diligently at my job and to be a great mom.
3. Marriage with little kids is hilarious.
Since I was a single mama when Little J was born, doing marriage with a newborn, much less a newborn and a toddler, is entirely new to me. We’ve had to learn to steal small pockets of time to connect with each other. Long gone are the days when we easily enjoyed an hour-long conversation or a date night. Now, we savor a quick 5 minute “How was your day? Tell me your high and low from today.” in the midst of the joyful chaos of having a newborn.
One thing I so appreciate about Justin is his amazing sense of humor. One morning he was saying goodbye before he went to work after a particularly hard night with Maggie and he looked me straight in the eye as he said: “This is really, really hard but I love you… and you have CRAP on your forehead!”
I had changed a very large diaper of Little J’s that morning and had definitely gotten poop on my forehead. We DIED laughing and I laugh every time I think of it. Marriage right now is really sweet and really hard, but thankfully we’re learning to laugh a lot which helps.
Like when photos don’t turn out exactly how you’d like… We’re practicing “gentle hands” here. (Practicing being the key word…)
So much change and transitions means lots of learning opportunities, you know what I mean?? I’m learning how to be content in each season, and this one that I’m in right now is so, so sweet.
“I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:12-13
What are you learning in your current season of life? I’d love to hear from you!